A shitty place to be a woman

7 Jul

Where you may ask. The world. The world, planet earth, every damn corner of the bloody well world is a bit a of a shitty place for a woman. You might look at the rights a woman has in India and the rights a woman has in the UK and think its incomparable, but I don’t mean rights, I mean sexually, sexuality, sexual harassment, being a piece of meat, an object, a weaker species at risk of attack from dog like men, no in fact that would be an insult to dogs.

Now I’m not going to go on a feminism hype, and bash and hate men, well a little. Its just really aggravating. It genuinely seems like there is no solution for a woman to be safe. I may be exaggerating, I may be speaking irrationally based on some things I keep seeing but I will have my rant anyway.

The world is a shitty place to be a woman. Seriously what is the solution, consider the recommendations from many different cultures and no ones really got it right. Not even the socially forward society of the west, because there is enough sexual harassment cases and rapes reported everyday.
It seems if you’re alone you’re at risk, so maybe avoid being out on your own you may say? Well I just read an article about women getting attacked in crowds with men conjuring some sick team work methods to do so, so If you’re in a crowd you’re at risk. If you’re with friends you’re at risk, so hey maybe its because its women you are with and a potential attacker still deems them as weak, so how about if you make sure your escorted with a male. Wait there are plenty examples of women being with males who then get beaten up and she still gets attacked, so if you are with a man you’re still at risk. Maybe the risk is from dressing provocatively, too revealing perhaps, attracting the wrong attention and giving the wrong impression, so cover up right? Well when there are YouTube video’s going viral of modestly dressed women being stripped in the streets of India and women covered head to toe stripped and beaten up in Egypt… so if your covered head to bloody toe you’re at risk. If you’re abroad you are at risk, if you are in a CCTV society you’re still at risk, hey maybe stay at home and don’t go out you might be safe, No! If you’re in your own house you’re at flipping risk. Dear God! Point me in the direction of nearest bridge, might as well flipping jump off. Why I have not bought two Rottweiler’s to walk with me at all times yet, I do not know. Maybe documentaries and watching Crime Watch is making me take a small sample of attacks and see it as a bigger issue than it is. But its a problem, women may be given the freedom of a man, but she still remains at risk from the sick men that perceive her as nothing more than a sex object, a tool to be made use of.

Ok, I may have watched and read far too many things relating to the bad treatment of women; the gang rapes in India, public humiliation in the Middle East, soldiers raping civilians in Afghanistan, kidnapping and locking women in the basement in America, grooming gangs in the UK to name a few. I know that all men aren’t horrendously immoral monsters, but there are too many that are, it just frustrates me. There are too many men that are cowards, many cultures deem men as “protectors” because they have biologically been given more strength (apologies to any of my iron pumping, martial arting, strong ladies out there who can hold their own), where is the protection? Why are these things going on in the streets, not just sexual harassment, harassment in general, I’ve read and seen so many instances of women being heckled in public, whether its because she is attractive or pulling off a woman’s headscarf as a hate crime. Are you telling me there are no passer’s by that can say something, hey macho men, where is your voice now?

Like I said I’m not a feminist I believe men and women are equal but we are different, I will not sit here and say I can do whatever a man can do because I can’t, and the same applies the other way . There is a lot that we can both do equivalently but there are also qualities that we don’t have that we should appreciate in each other. On the opposite side of the spectrum I’m not claiming to be a damsel in distress that needs to lean on a man to exist. We all play our roles.

I’m just sick of women being abused based on their weakness, where is the empathy and morality? I know its a really negative way to think and I don’t get raped every time I walk down the road, but why should any body have to experience that, why isn’t any other woman’s pain not my pain, after all it could have been me. I hate seeing and hearing what women have to go through all over the world, it makes me feel completely helpless, because not only can I not help them, but could I even do anything to prevent it from happening to me? Could I even do anything to stop it happening to me? Take up mixed martial arts and walk around with a beastly dog maybe. Hmm…


2 Responses to “A shitty place to be a woman”

  1. arthurrussell August 4, 2013 at 7:49 pm #

    I’m too much of a pragmatist and realist to have a simple answer for you, or the problem. Here’s what I think, though: (for what it’s worth)

    I’m a big guy. I was raised in the south in the United States, and even now, in our time of feminism and all that, there’s still a sense of “chivalry” that many parents try to instill in their sons. In seeking to treat people as people instead of genders or anything, I do things like hold the door for, well, anybody. I try to help people whenever I can and call them ,”ma’am” or “sir” if I don’t know them.

    The world, somewhere, decided that this sense is not one to be desired. Men frequently get together and taunt each other in testosterone driven sessions of how they are a “woman” and such, as if we lived in BC times and a world of Patriarchy.

    I can’t fix it all. I can only do the right thing myself. I can only control me. If I see a man do something to a woman, or talk about them in a way to magnify the idea that they are “weak”, I can take a stand.

    Maybe that’s what needs to happen. Enough individuals need to decide that they should act like humans to other humans, and protect other humans from any “monster” that might treat them like “prey”.

    Just know this, if I see you get treated poorly and it looks like you can’t handle it on your own, I will come to help.

    Not because you are “just a woman”.

    Because you are human.

    Just do me the same favor, okay? 🙂

    • charliejibbs August 5, 2013 at 2:59 pm #

      I guess there is never a simple solution for most problems, which is precisely why they are problems in the first place.

      Its lovely to hear that there are people like yourself out there, with the media making us all think otherwise. Even though I do believe women happen to end up being a target more often, because of how they are perceived, but I totally agree with you. As humans we should be there to support each other regardless and to help a fellow human if they need help.

      Its a shame that there are people that lack morality and empathy but you are right we can only start by changing ourselves. I have a sudden desire to sing ‘Man in the Mirror’ by Michael Jackson :p.

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